Hmm, enjoy your day with this culled article. So weird! Some
people are just ingrates. Kai! One of the worst stories, I have read in a
decade. Na wao!
Find it after the cut…
“Two years back I traveled with my Nigerian
friends from SA to Nigeria just for a week but when I got there I enjoyed myself
to a point I decided to stay a year. Everything was great until I met a guy and
we started going out. You would be shocked to know this same guy was selling
fruits when I met him, dirty as hell and my friends kept telling me I am making
a mistake but I loved his personality.
We
became very close until he introduced me to his family in Ibadan, the minute
the guy mentioned I am from SA the mother started praying in tongues, his
sister called me names and the only one I could understand was oluru bukuru .
My
guy got angry and we left, two weeks later he proposed to me, I was only 22 but
I loved him so I agreed and told him to meet my family for negotiations and he
did and sold his father’s house so he can pay my N1.2 million bride price. (Equivalent).
We went to court and signed since his family did not want me and mine also
were not so happy I decided to marry a Nigerian man.
We
both moved to SA because I have my own house and businesses so SA is the only
place we could be comfortable. Stella it took just two weeks for my Romeo to
change. He started telling me that he wanted his son to also come stay with us.
The boy was about a year old and had lost his mum during childbirth so I did
not mind..The son arrived and my Romeo started asking for money day and night, sitting
all day at home watching soccer and drinking. It was so bad that him and his
son were like my kids. I wake up at 5am in the morning to open my shops and
prepare our son for school and then prepare myself to go to school because I am
doing my masters this year.
I
make up N2 5million a month (equivalent) but I still let him control
everything and I am not pig headed or proud. I tried to open a business
for him but instead he took the money and bought booze and travelled
around.
Last month he
invited his brother to come visit us for a while. His brother had only been
around for 3 weeks and I already felt the presence of a man in our home
.his brother does not let me wake up early he does everything for me and even
looks after the kid as well. I thought maybe it’s a trap to steal from me, so
I left some money in the car I gave him to use to see what he would do but
he returned it.
My husband is
always out drinking while his brother is home with me helping me clean and cook
and with my business as well. I am so confused because ever since I started
doing well in business my husband stopped caring.
He says am the
husband in the house and has not touched me in a while and I have feelings too
so with the brother all over the house day and night in shorts it has became a
challenge for me to control myself. Last night for the first time my
Romeo came home and told the brother it was time for him to go and when I tried
to tell him not to do that he gave me a slap and I lost it for a while.
His brother beat
him up to a point I thought he wanted to kill him and told him things that I
have always wanted to tell Romeo since we got married he said ‘’ this woman
loved you even when you had nothing, she looks after your kid as her own and
your parents are comfortable back home because of her and you have the balls to
beat her up”
Two hours back I received
a call from his friend that he tried to kill himself and he’s in hospital. I am
scared and confused .his son is 3yrs and calls me mum ,he is already used to
this place, do I send the kid back to Nigeria and do I go see my husband in
hospital or let him be and divorce him?
I am confused
please help I am 24, beautiful and intelligent and I want kids of my own and I
want to be happy and Romeo is not doing that for me. Is it maybe he
prefers to hustle like he used to do when we were in Nigeria or maybe I am
putting too much pressure on him? Help!!''
Culled: Stella's Blog
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