Great Write-up!!!
He tells you that he admires your
‘keeping it real’, especially the way you puff the smokes with him and his
friends, guzzle down everybody’s bottle of alcohol that is passed round and
grace every outing-half naked. All these (plus your ‘know how’ on bed) are the
reasons he is absolutely crazy about your person…so he tells you!
Yet, when it was time for him to
pick a wife…he went for a lady that doesn’t even touch the bottle and can’t
stand ‘the smoke’-let alone touching it. He went for a lady that he’s had to
quit smoking to even get her attention…a lady who doesn’t have to wear
‘waywardness’ as a badge to ‘net’ a husband.
Quit sulking o. He never told you
that his admiration of your ‘free-ness’ (of attitude) made him consider you a
wife material for one day. Your ‘ways’ probably satiate his fantasy (besides,
he has nothing to lose by tolerating and simply enjoying ‘the pleasure’ that
you throw into the mix too) but when he came back to reality…he made his
decision. And since you could so carry yourself as one of the boys-tell me why
he should marry his fellow man.
However, if all your efforts were
for him to see that you can make a good ‘marital companion’. I suggest you
retrace your steps and learn(instead) those traits that make a lady a ‘wife
material’ –in case a ‘husband material’ comes your way but if you have no
qualms with your ways-then carry on(and don’t mind Oby).The beauty of life is
that everyone has the tendency to come across someone who may have no qualms
tolerating his/her warts and all…someone who will take you home for the very
reasons that another dumped you!
In their ‘wandering days’ (when
they have nothing at stake)…a lot of men can romance a wild girl but when
reality beckons-they will not touch her with a ten foot pole. They know who to
take home to Mama. Values become top in their priority list. That is also when
you will realise that all that his ‘liberal mindedness’ is a façade of sorts. A
man can look the other way or make a show of being tolerant towards a lady’s
‘wild ways’- if he has nothing at stake (with her) but if she is someone he has
envisaged a future with …he will mind every fragment of her life style-even
down to the friends of her friends.
I have realised that a lot of
ladies emit confusing signals in a bid to ‘net’ a husband. Pretence of all
types becomes second nature to them. Some (that don’t like sex that much) will
even play ‘tigresses on bed’ –just to ‘pocket’ the man. It never ceases to
amaze me that someone is willing to embrace ‘the direct opposite’ of her nature
to find a husband. Is it any surprises that unimaginable resentment perpetuates
when all the masks come falling off?
I have always preached ‘keeping
it real’. You may not know when the ‘real you’ is what is actually tripping a
potential mate. It is difficult to sustain a façade-no matter how well
practiced you are. Something always gives when you are not on your guard. If a
life style is what you think could make you achieve your aims (whatever they
are)-then make genuine efforts to retrain yourself in that aspect. Quit ‘faking
it’. You might as well stay as you are…you could be lucky enough to meet your
type. After all, someone once said that “opposites attract in theory but in
marriage-they attack.’’
Source: Punch
Nice one!
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