WELCOME TO THE BABY MAMA CLUB- Written By Roseline Nya

No doubt, I have been an antagonist of this madness called 'Baby Mama'. Personally, I see it as an enslavement of the women folk. Yah! That’s what it is. You know, there’s this erroneous assertion that men or best said husband is very scare, so because of that, men especially celebrities are subjecting the ladies to all forms of ugly situations in the name of marriage. This is not fair.

The females too, in most cases are ever ready to be baby mamas to male celebrities in search of fame. This is awkward. In this short but very interesting write-up, a seasoned writer Roseline Nya, critically assessed the situation and seemingly proffered some solution.

Read it after the cut…

First comes baby, then (under probability) comes the wedding. What’s going on, ladies?

-ROSELINE NYA

Congratulations to the Tinsel star, Gideon Okeke; who recently joined the train of baby daddies.

It is no longer news that;

-In 2011, Wizkid welcomed a son with his baby mama, Sola Ogudu.

-In 2012, Ice Prince welcomed his son with his baby mama, Bimbo Babatunde.

-In 2014, Flavour welcomed a daughter, with his baby mama, Sandra Okagbue.

-Earlier this year, Olamide welcomed a son with his baby mama, Aisha Suleiman.

The list is inexhaustible especially as it isn’t only the celebrities who are birthing babies without first walking down the aisle. But it is celebrities who have put a stamp of endorsement on this trend.

This list calls into question the erosion of the process of forming a family as we’ve traditionally come to understand it as being, courtship, marriage, and then babies.

Why are our young women having children outside of marriage?

Is it because they are anti-marriage? Is it because marriage has lost its allure in the sight of our young women? Are our young men are worth less than what they used to?

Is it in the spirit of desperation or is it a matter of female emancipation?

We can choose to ignore the individual stories of these young women and preach, instead, the restoration of a culture of marriage before childbirth. And talk about how crucial it is and how we need to give every child the opportunity to be raised by their mother and father in a stable home.

Or we can cite that children raised by their married, biological parents are less likely to engage in delinquent or self destructive behaviors and how this is important in building stable communities.

We can do all of that and more, and feel good about ourselves while we are at it. But assuming that, a marriage certificate is guarantee that a child’s upbringing and development is safe, is a misnomer because a marriage license is no indicator that the two people involved are committed, invested, or dedicated to the child’s upbringing.

For some, not marrying their child’s father is the best parenting decision that they have ever made. Compared to the previous generation of women, who absolve their pregnancy predicament simply by marrying the father, this generation seems not to be bothered about societal opinions. Terrible marriages persist to the detriment of the children who would otherwise benefit from not being raised in a violent and consistently argumentative household.

Ultimately, children need dedicated parents, but the parenting arrangement is irrelevant. Marriage may have once been the sole way to quantify a dedication to family, but with that mold having now been challenged; we clearly need to recognise others.

Having said it all, everyone is at liberty to live their lives the way they deem fit as long as they also realise that choices bear consequences.

From the look of things, the Baby Mama trend has come to stay.