Gaining admission into a higher
institution can be mind blowing. For a lot of adolescents, it is their first experience
away from home. And truly the last days of adolescent lives are lived here. The
awe of independence can be very exhilarating and more so in a unique
environment like Uniport. With that euphoria, many get swallowed up in the
bellies of Ofrima aptly named after a big Shark! For some others, a life
defining adventure it is, as many choices that eventually determine ones
personality and character are made here. I recall with note nostalgia, my ‘freshman’
year. Now that I consider it critically, I think it was my best year as an
undergraduate...
A cursory glance at my friend in school
reveals a lot of familiar faces; face I have known, loved and if you like hated
for years. Most of them, I met in my freshman year, some in sophomore and then
others sometime later. Each face represents a story, an interesting aspect of
my life. Like the waves, my friends have ebbed and flawed with the passing of
years. Some have left for greener pastures and some…well, you can’t always win
but wherever they are, they are important aspects of my personality today.
In my year one, I met a lot of
people for the first time. I fell in love or so I thought but, I somehow
managed not to go overboard. In my opinion, one of the greatest challenges a
fresher faces is an emotional one. Academics…someone or people will always tell
you how you should not get anything less than five A’s before the first year is
over. Religion…pastor, priest and prophets will talk to you about the
forthcoming eternal damnation so that you will give your life to Christ. Finances…they
will advise you to learn how to manage your life because according to them
sometimes when you call home they will tell you to exercise patience till month
end and so on. But, emotions, love, sex, relationship etc…everyone glosses over
that because it seems to be a taboo in this part of the world to talk about
them. Well, I am a non-conformist.
In my year one, I met this girl
who was pretty, cultured, intelligent…a lady in the real sense of the world. I wouldn’t
bore you my dear with what my heart or stomach experienced whenever I saw her
or was with her; but I will tell you what happened after I told her how I felt.
Like a real lady she is, she told me that it wasn’t bad or wrong to feel what I
felt once in a while but that I should try and keep those feelings away as we
are better off as friends. I tried to
keep away from her but she realized and insisted that and insisted that for me
to keep those feelings, I had to see her and as a friend too.
I had this other friend, a proper
lady in her own class too (guess, I was just running into ladies, back then). Things
between us would have got complicated and neither of us would have been able to
handle it. So one day, I introduced Miss A (my crush) to Miss B and incidentally
they were in the same department. There was no animosity or jealousy between
the two of them. I believe the term we use today is fast-friend because they
blended almost immediately. I was still carrying a dying torch for Miss A, so
somehow I got to spend a lot of time in her residence and Miss B was always around.
Overtime, the dynamics of our
three cornered relationship changed from a romance-oriented to filial loved-oriented
relationship and before long, we were inseparable. Tongues waggled as people
tired to analyze who was dating who but we weren’t fazed. Our friendship
continued to grow, through many ASUU strikes and civil unrests. It’s been 6
years and in those 6 years, I can’t imagine a live without these two ladies who
have blessed my life richly. When Miss A turned me down back then, I didn’t know
God had a better plan for us.
So guys, if a girl turns you down
or should I say friend zones you, don’t panic. And yes, a guy can be just
friends with a girl because I have been with two girls for 6years and I love
them a whole lot.
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