Funmi Akingbade, a sex educator
writes on a very important issue that is affecting families today. Please, this
mature article is not for everybody.
Enjoy it after the cut…
Wives, did you know that sex time
is not the best time to shed tears, because the scent of a woman’s tears
decreases sexual arousal in men? Some researchers have speculated that a woman’s
libido is linked to her testosterone level. Although usually thought of as a
male hormone, testosterone is also made in small quantities in women, it is
produced in her ovaries. As she ages, her body produces less of all the sex
hormones, which include oestrogens, progesterone and testosterone. By age 40,
the production of testosterone in a woman’s body is about half the amount made
in the 20s. Although the ovary does continue to produce testosterone after
menopause, the level drops gradually after this time. Women who have their
ovaries surgically removed have even lower levels of testosterone.
Do you wonder why your desire for
junk food increases when you are in your period? The junk food can kill libido
because they drain blood. Some women get cravings for strange foods when they
are in their period, simply because women are hormonal beings, and hormones
cause cravings. As the cycle swings, the hormone swings alongside. These make a
woman’s taste buds to be spicy and crave salty foods which easily lead to
anaemia. To prevent anaemia, reduce unhealthy food intake. With the changes in
metabolism, some women may feel cravings for carbohydrates, or any number of
other foods. Do you also wonder why your desire for sex increases when you are
‘on?’ Well, an increase in sexual libido during menstrual period has to do with
hormones. They cause the vaginal secretions to increase, causing the breasts to
swell; simply put, that is nature’s way of saying, let’s have sex.
Can you believe it that majority
of couples complaining of infertility could be as a result of too frequent
sucking of the wife’s breast? Yes! If you are fond of sucking your wife’s
breast too frequently during foreplay, or a wife is always demanding for her
breast to be sucked hard, to lead her into exploding arousal may be delaying
pregnancy unknowingly. This is because frequent sucking of breast stimulates
the production of prolactin which is a natural hormone produced during breast
feeding to help prevent pregnancy. Since the pituitary gland cannot
differentiate the lips or sucking reflect of an adult from that of a child, it
will just go ahead and help increase the simulation of the prolactin which
inhibits fertilisation. So moderation is the rule of the game.
Do you wonder why you have such a
heavy flow? Well, maybe your body is trying to tell you something because your
period is your ‘barometer.’ A heavy flow can be a marker of uterine fibroids,
which are benign growths on the uterus, or thyroid problems or hormone
irregularities. It is important for you to see your doctor if your periods are
heavy [meaning more than a pad an hour], or if you are flooding [meaning bright
red blood that just does not stop] or if you have large clots. It is not
healthy to have menstrual clotting, it most time points to the existence of
fibroids and if you have a lot of them, or you’re starting to have symptoms of
anaemia or low iron like headache and dizziness, see your doctor fast.
Do you wonder why you get
diarrhoea and constipation during your period? Again, the single reason is your
hormones. All women react differently to hormones; actually the hormones in a
woman’s body control her temperature, especially around the time she ovulates.
It is also responsible for the acne [pimples] around the menstrual periods that
people term as breast tenderness, and for so many things. In fact, the slowing
down of the metabolism in the gastrointestinal tract is the reason many
pregnant women will become constipated or have diarrhoea because of those high
hormone levels during pregnancy.
Wives, did you know that frequent
denial of sexual favour from your husband is one of the reasons why 59 per cent
of married men develop premature ejaculation, weak erection, quick ejaculation
and anxiety of performance? When a husband is always receiving excuses of why
sex cannot happen on a too regular basis, his psychic registers a negative
neuropathic wave which triggers a deadening of the nerves, arteries and tissues
of the penis and sometimes causes an inflammation of the prostate gland and
malfunction of the testes. Many become hostile to their children and less
productive at work.
Did you know that many ladies
give themselves toilet disease more during menstruation and also infect their
husbands than even when they use public toilet? You can also prevent a whole
lot of infections during your menstrual period if you so minimize the hours you
wear your sanitary pad. Sanitary pad should not be worn more than six to eight
hours per day. Sanitary pad worn for longer period can be a medium for bacteria
and can lead to uterine infections and toxic shock syndrome. If you are a lover
of tampon, bear it in mind that it can be stuck and get wedged behind your
cervix. Prescribed antibiotics especially during menstrual period to cure some
aliment can allow the growth of yeast infection such as ‘toilet disease,
itching in the private part, and some STDs. While taking antibiotic
prescription, try to eat yoghurt, which is the more natural way, of taking
antifungal to balance up.
Did you wonder why some wives’
menstrual cycle is never regular, and if care is not taken, can ruin your
sexual passion due to unwanted pregnancy? Well, a research at George Washington
University did a first-of-its-kind survey of the menstrual histories of more
than 600 women. They found that only 28 per cent of women had textbook cycles,
and this is the conclusion. If you are over 45 and you are pushing past 35
days, it may be because you are in your pre-menopausal and beginning to ovulate
less frequently. As women age from their 20s through their early 40s, the
average menstrual cycle declines from 30 to 27 days (though many women had
cycles that were longer or shorter). This average increases as they approach
menopause: up to 35 days when they are three to four years away, then 45 days
two years prior to the change, and finally 80 days in the year before they stop
altogether.
However, if you have a 14-day
cycle followed by a 36-day cycle, that is usually an indication that you have a
hormone imbalance. You should see your doctor, especially if you are still at
an age where you might want to get pregnant. However, if missing periods
entirely and you are not pregnant, your ovaries are probably failing to release
an egg (anovulation), which means your body will not produce the hormones that
guide menstruation. Stress can trigger anovulation; you do not have to worry if
it happens just once or twice a year. In older women, a “missed” period may
also simply be a very long cycle. Experts say that when you see a 60-day cycle,
that is a good indication you are approaching menopause. According to research
from the Weizmann Institute of Science in Israel, ginseng root boosts arousal
and sexual satisfaction, and chocolate increases desire. A group of scientists
recently carried out a research on why a typical teenage Nigerian girl becomes
sexually active indiscriminately and this report was sent to my office. In the
report, 90 per cent of mothers claim to have spoken to their daughters about
the danger of indiscriminate sexual activities but only 20 per cent of these
girls confirmed this statement and 50 per cent say their moms have never talked
to them about sex. Ninty four per cent of these mothers say they did not have a
conversation about sex with their own mothers before their first sexual
experience. Forty two per cent of these girls say their beliefs about sex are
most influenced by their associations, Internet, porn, peer pressure, school,
religion and parents while just 12 per cent of girls say their beliefs about
sex are most influenced by their mothers’ beliefs and experiences. The most
common message moms say they pass on during the sex talk is, “A man will tell
you anything to get you into bed, it doesn’t mean he loves you or will marry
you. Be careful of men, all they want is use you and dump you.” seventy per
cent of girls say they get most of their information about sex from internet
and friends. Eighty seven per cent of these girls say if they have opportunity
to talk to their moms like their friends about sex, it will shape their
commitment to abstinence before marriage and be more comfortable about their
sexuality. This is what young Nigerian girls think about sex. Did you know what
your eight-year- old girl is really thinking about sex right now? And can you
boldly say you are sure of her non-involvement in vaginal penetrative sex?
Did you know that you can have a
great, long-lasting sex life with the same married partner as long as you both
are married? And that if you give that person mind-blowing, erotic blow job and
out-of-this-planet sexual treat once in a while, he or she will look absolutely
younger than his or her age? Absolutely yes. This was a discovery some
researchers got from a group of 600 married couples who have been married for
over 25 years. However, they discovered that these couples were not having
movie-style sex always but a mixture of all types of sex. They interchanged
from movie sex, to relationship sex and romantic sex to passionate sex. They
did not only validate their partner, they praise their aged bodies; these habit
made them get turned on even before they start sex, which invariably makes them
love every time they are together.
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