What a Shame! What a Baby Mama? (Adults Only)

Recently, the blogsphere was abuzzed with the gist of a top Beauty Queen, who is ‘reportedly’ expecting a baby with an A-list Singer. Ordinarily, one would have expected that such a high profile model who has got to the peak of her modeling career, and who is supposedly a moral standard or a role model for some gullible Nigerian youths, wouldn’t have stooped so low to the extent of picking up that God forsaken title of: ‘Baby Mama’. Yes, I never imagined she would stoop so low. But, the reverse seemed to be the case.

Although, it may not really make much sense ruffling feathers with celebs by discussing their personal issues; but something compels me to discuss this ‘self degrading’, loathsome, repulsive and extremely repugnant topic. Baby Mama Syndrome....

Who’s a baby Mama? Am not interested in any classroom definition of the term, but, according to my friend, a baby mama is a lady who has a child or is pregnant for a man who’s not her husband. In my local parlance, we call it: “Ituru-Ime-Okwa”. Yah! It’s a kind of modernized, refined and redefined: ‘Unwanted Pregnancy’. Simply put, you are not his wife, but you are his baby’s Mother (Mama) or just his baby factory. This is laughable!

To think that this demonic syndrome called Baby Mama is now the reigning practice among our youths especially celebrities is the height of madness! For how long are these young ladies going to allow themselves to be 'used and dumped' by these so called male celebs? Just look around sincerely, you can help us compile a litany of hit-makers and entertainers with baby Mamas. Aren't they numerous? He needs a child, but doesn’t need a wife. Arrant Nonsense!

It baffles one to observe that some of these male celebrities do not have just one, but two or more females as baby mamas! Put differently, their main responsibility is to impregnate and dump these females and their babies in search of more damsels to brainwash and rubbish their lofty ambitions in life. 
Personally, I call them: “Destiny Destroyers”. That’s what they; and to show that they are just out to destroy the destinies of these females, we learnt that these guys who know very well that they would always want to have sex (and plenty of it sef), always refuse to use their protective devices. Why? And the ladies know these too well; but have refused to learn.

I conducted an opinion poll recently on this baby mama stuff, and I was bemoaned and bemused to discover that most of our sisters do not see anything wrong with this devilish trend. Girls Why? You don’t see anything wrong with a celeb, using and dumping you in search of another, in as much as you have a baby with him and he’s footing the bill? This is close to Madness! It is necessary to note that some of these materialistic and fame conscious damsels usually meet their waterloo after getting entangled in a cobweb of infatuation usually on a one night stand.

Yesterday, I visited a friend and together with her sisters, we discussed this issue at length. From our conversation, I discovered that sometimes, these damsels are bamboozled by (what they see as) love and search for fame. I was made to understand that in most cases, these sweet tongue guys promised heaven and hell to them, in the guise of marriage, only to suddenly change their minds, immediately they get to know that they missed their periods. Chai! Needless to add, whenever, a guy needs sex, he can promise to build Rome in one day for the lady, just to have his way; but five minutes later, that’s after he gets what he needs. It’s all balloon! What an inhumanity?

In one of the examples they cited, the lady started the whole trash; and from every indications, she was the only one in that relationship; put differently, the Beauty Queen was just in love with her imaginations. She kept on disturbing our peace on instagram with the pictures of her supposed bae. But, the young man, never for one day, showed off her own pictures or say anything about been in love with her.

As expected, fans actually warned her to be very careful with the dude, but they were tagged “Bad Belles”. But, when the pregnancy became an issue, trust Nigerian Bloggers and their readers, the level of media backlashes was unprecedented. But, who do you blame? You make yourself a topic when you start acting unreasonably. I pray one day, some of these men will get a taste of their own medicine. Just one day, maybe that will serve them right.

In as much as I agree with you my dear readers, that it is not in my place to decide how a lady should live her private life; but I want to refer you to the words of the scripture which says that “marriage is honourable; and a bed undefiled”. It remains to say that baby mama suggests a moment of aberration and ethical repugnancy. You can’t just take a child and ‘diss’ her mum. No! No! No!

Evidently, some ladies are back with that outlived but seemingly reincarnated mentality of chasing shadow; and this may not be unconnected with your ever increasing quest for materialism, fashion and fame; but don’t forget that morality suggests that we should act within the range of human imperfection. Although, some of them have sometime in the past made it just by the struck of luck, but, one mustn’t be a Baby Mama for a responsible man to get her to the peck of her career. If he really loves you, he will do everything to settle down with you.

A story was told about a popular entertainer somewhere in Africa, who is famous for having the highest number of Baby Mamas in the music industry. But, when he finally decided to settle down, he picked from the topmost; and I asked myself, what about those ones that threw themselves on him just to bear his surname? A word is enough for the wise!

Nwaimo Chibuzor (Twitter: @gistybuzor)

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