Recently, the social media was
abuzzed with the gist of a top Beauty Queen, who is ‘reportedly’ expecting a child
with an A-list Singer. Ordinarily, one would have expected that such a high
profile model who has got to the peak of her modeling career, and who is
supposedly a role model to upcoming models, wouldn’t have stooped so low to the
extent of picking up that ‘self degrading’, loathsome, repulsive and extremely
repugnant title: “Baby Mama”. Yes, I never imagined she would stoop so low.
But, the reverse seemed to be the case; and from the look of things, the Baby
Mama trend has come to stay....
Although, it may not really make
much sense ruffling feathers with celebs by discussing their personal issues
here; but to think that this demonic syndrome called Baby Mama is now the
reigning practice among our youths especially celebrities is the height of
madness! To a point, I began to wonder; for how long are these young ladies
going to allow themselves to be 'used and dumped' by these so called male
celebs? Just look around sincerely, you can help us compile a litany of
hit-makers with Baby Mamas. Oh yes! It is no longer news that: in 2011, 2012, 2013,
2014 and even earlier this year, top male celebs welcomed babies with their
baby mamas.
So, you can see that the list is
endless. Although, it is not only the celebrities who are having babies before
wedlock; but, word on the street now is that celebrities are the people that
have put a stamp of endorsement on this trend. It baffles one to observe that
some of these male celebrities do not have just one, but two or more females as
baby mamas! Put differently, their main responsibility is to impregnate and
dump these females and their babies in search of more damsels to brainwash and
rubbish their lofty ambitions and dreams in life.
Personally, I call them: “Destiny
Destroyers”. That’s what they; and to show that they are just out to destroy
the destinies of these females, we learnt that these guys who know very well
that they would always want to have sex (and plenty of it sef), usually refuse
to use their ‘protective devices’. Why? And the ladies know these too well; but
have refused to learn. To a point again, I began to wonder again: why are some
of our young women so much interested in having children before walking down
the aisle? Ladies answer me. Does it mean that females are becoming
anti-marriage? Or has marriage lost it pedigree and standard in their sight and
understanding?
I conducted an opinion poll
recently on this baby mama stuff, and I was bemoaned and bemused to discover
that most of our sisters do not see anything wrong with this devilish trend.
Girls Why? You don’t see anything wrong with a celeb, using and dumping you in
search of another, in as much as you have a baby with him and he’s footing the
bill? Chai! I smell something close to Madness here!
Recently, I visited a friend and
together with her sisters, we discussed at length this issue. From our
conversation, I discovered that sometimes, these damsels are bamboozled by
(what they see as) love and search for fame. In one of the examples they cited,
the lady started the whole trash; and from every indications, she was the only
one in that relationship; the Beauty Queen kept on disturbing our peace on
instagram with the pictures of her supposed bae. But, the young man, never for
one day, showed off her own pictures or say anything about been in love with
her. Chai! As expected, fans actually warned her to be very careful with the
dude, but they were tagged “Bad Belles”. But, when the pregnancy became an
issue, trust Nigerian Bloggers and their readers, the level of media backlashes
was unprecedented.
I read in one the article by a publicist
that for some ladies, not marrying their child’s father is the best parenting
decision that they have ever made. But, this is contrary to what our mother’s
practiced. According to Mrs. Roseline Anya, in previous generations, women
absolve their pregnancy predicament simply by marrying the father; because that
generation seemed to be bothered about societal opinions.
In as much as I agree with you my
dear readers, that it is not in my place to decide how a lady should live her
private life; but I want to refer you to the words of the scripture which says
that “marriage is honourable; and a bed undefiled”. It remains to say that baby
mama suggests a moment of aberration and ethical repugnancy. According to Mrs.
Anya, Baby Mama Syndrome sadly calls into question, the erosion of the process
of forming a family as we’ve traditionally come to understand it as being,
courtship, marriage, and then babies.
Although, some of them have
sometime in the past made it just by the struck of luck, but, one mustn’t be a
Baby Mama to get her to the peck of her career or settle down with the man of
her choice. It’s pertinent to note that everyone is at liberty to live their
lives the way they deem fit; but, my duty here is to try and let ladies also
realize that choices bear consequences.
A story was told about a popular
entertainer somewhere in Africa, who is famous for having the highest number of
Baby Mamas in the music industry. But, when he finally decided to settle down,
he picked from the topmost; and I asked myself, what about those ones that threw
themselves at him just to bear his surname? A word is enough for the wise!
Written By:
Nwaimo Chibuzor (Trendy Gist
Publisher/Blogger)
Engage me on Twitter: @gistybuzor
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