A man recently walked into my
office with his wife and looked straight into my eyes and said, ‘Please can you
teach me how to make my wife experience a breast orgasm?’
‘Breast orgasm’, I asked? And he
nodded and repeated after me and said, ‘Yes Madam, breast orgasm’. He
continued, ‘My marriage clocked four years yesterday and I have done all to
make my wife respond to me. But she seems not to be interested in sex with me
in particular, because, according to her, I only waste her time and kill her
libido during sex. And after long hours of persuasion and pleading, she would
simply say her idea of good sex is when I make her experience breast orgasm.
She said that was what her former boyfriend used to do to make her enjoy sex to
the ultimate level....
‘Madam, apart from the fact I was
psychologically deflated that my wife still preferred another man on bed or
still carried the memories of her former lover, I also want to learn and do
better,’ he said.
The breasts are one of the
erogenous zones and while some women are able to reach orgasm from breast
stimulation alone, some others may not be able to. The idea of some women
experiencing breast orgasm with or without any genital stimulation could sound
stressful and perplexing to many husbands who do not see any reasons for
foreplay or love play. But this is, by 80 per cent, one of the many libidoral
fantasies of a good number of married women. The fear of, ‘how will my husband
respond to this if I bring up the subject’, has incapacitated this idea from
the mind of many of these wives.
The orgasm this category of women
normally feel is not just in their nipples, but throughout their breasts,
though more intense around the areolas. Scientifically, the breasts can swell
up to 25 per cent when a woman is aroused. This boost makes the breasts super
sensitive, and quite larger. Nipple stimulation actually activates the same
region of the brain as clitoral, vaginal and cervical stimulation do. Research
has discovered that stimulation of the nipple activates an area of the brain
known as the genital sensory cortex. This is the same brain region activated by
stimulation of the clitoris, vagina and cervix. What this means is that women’s
brains seem to process nipple and genital stimulation in the same way. In the
light of this, it is not at all surprising that many wives are aroused by
having their nipples rightfully touched and that, for some, this may be enough
to lead to orgasm. During this time, the nipple actually goes from a pale
erected organ to a deeper manner, the more a woman is aroused. This is true
because the blood flow increases when a woman is turned on. This sexy gentle
nipple stimulation may be what it takes to send many wives over the edge for
orgasm and the desire for passionate sex. As a matter of fact, this is the most
compensatory help for many circumcised wives.
However, just as breasts come in
all shapes, sizes and colours, wives’ preferences during breast play do differ.
Majority of women may love having their nipples caressed while some might find
this not important. Also, breast sensitivity changes with women’s menstrual
cycles, so what some wives may literally like this week, may be a piss off the
next week. The mysterious rhythm of a woman’s body is kind of exciting. It is
very needful for the husband to understudy this and be equipped with relevant
facts.
A woman’s breasts contain the
same trigger-happy nerves found in the clitoris making breast orgasm the second
most common form of orgasms for women. That is the reason the nipples reach out
for more when kissed, caressed or stimulated. But most husbands simply ignore
these magnificent twin globes in a rush to head down south to get to where they
think is the best possibility for orgasm.
The woman’s breasts at any stage,
(even if the shape is pendulum, flat, small, sagged) have a direct hotline to
her clitoris and when breast play is done with skill and finesse, it can lead
to a dazzling multiple orgasm for her. At the very least, breast and nipple
stimulation can even over-raise the libido of a woman that has undergone bad
circumcision, and send her arousal soaring with pleasure!
Just as there is no
‘one-size-fits-all’ bra, there isn’t any one method that will work for every
wife all the time. Breast sensitivity, hormonal changes, her personal
preferences, etc., will influence your choice of technique. If you, as the
husband, are not sure as at how best to proceed, you both can be naked and sit
facing each other in the nude and get her to show you what arouses her.
Think about it, inasmuch as you
wouldn’t like it if your wife just grabbed your penis out of nowhere and
started jerking it around roughly, she needs to be warmed up first by light,
soft and slow stimulation. And please don’t just do one thing over and over. It
may become too repetitive and boring, and even if she loved it at first, after
a while it would lose its effect. You’ll get the best results by using a
combination of different stimulation techniques.
You’re starting off soft, so try
tracing circles with the tip of your finger over her stomach and chest,
gradually moving in to the breasts and nipples.
Experiment with licking,
nibbling, sucking and stroking the neck, chest and nipple area. Assess her
arousal either by watching if her nipples rise, darken and intensify or through
the sex sounds she makes. You can also place your hands over hers and ask her
to show you how she wants to be pleasured.
Keep in mind that the more turned
on she becomes, the more sensation she would be able to endure. So start off
slowly and gently by using the feathery touch of your fingertips to stroke the
delicate skin of her breast. Slide your fingers down across her breast, making
slow, lazy circles over it; slide your palms in circular motions around the
entire breast area. Press firmly. You can either do one breast at a time or use
both hands and do both together. Continue even after her nipples become erect.
Cup as much of each breast in your hands as possible and move them around.
Massage them. Squeeze them gently then more firmly. Massage the nipples with or
without oil or the saliva of your tongue. Press on them. Roll them gently
between your thumb and forefinger. Use firmer and firmer pressure. Use one hand
to encircle her breast and push it up and out similar to a push-up bra.
Slide your hands over her
breasts, cupping them with the palms of your hands. Knead them, cup them, and
massage them gently, then more firmly, varying your speed and pressure. You
should consider using a massage oil or lotion to make your hands slide over her
skin more easily. Use oil or lotion to begin stimulating her nipples over and
again. Run your fingers over them. Press them. Roll them between your thumb and
index finger. Remember to keep her sensitivity in mind here and at all time. As
much as you don’t want to hurt her, you should try to give enough stimulation
to make it really pleasurable. Pull on them with slow-fast, repetitive strokes.
It is all about maximum masculine control and maximum feminine pleasure. One of
the beauties of this is that it helps many husbands with premature ejaculation
to be able to practice Kegel exercise at the same time this is going on. Cup
her breast with one hand and push it up. This has the effect of pushing her
nipple out making it firm and temptingly inviting. Rotate it around in a
circular motion with the pads of your fingers. At this stage, you can now move
on to using your mouth. Use your tongue to lick her breast from the bottom all
the way up and over her nipple. Give her open mouth wet kisses all over her
breasts and nipples. Run your tongue softly over her nipples in a flat
position. Then flex your tongue and flick the nipple with it. For some
categories of wives who would love to be ‘fingered’, this is the right time to
dip your finger into her vagina and roll the finger inside her in the same
manner you are rolling your tongue around her nipple. This simple treat breaks
the idea of frigidity or any form of resistance from your wife. As a matter of
fact, it is at this stage she will cry out loud for more.
You can still proceed further by
trying to give her gentle love nibbles and bites on her breasts. Make your way
to her nipples and nibble on them gently. Try covering your teeth with your wet
lips first to test her sensitivity. If she has extremely sensitive nipples or
is in a sensitive phase in her cycle, you might need to skip nibbling and
biting all together because this could be hurting her. If you’re not sure, ask
her if the pressure is okay.
Suction your mouth around her
nipple and suck in and out. Run your tongue over the nipple while you suck.
Kiss and lick each breast and nipple. Flick her nipples with your tongue.
Gently bite then suckle her nipples then lick and blow on them. This stage is
also helpful for pregnant women who are in their last stage of pregnancy as it
help to soften their breast and make it succulent for the child during breast
feeding because of the systemic erection and relaxation of the nipples.
Pull your lips and use them to
make a seal around the nipple. Suck in and then out without breaking the seal.
The nipple will feel alternating currents of vacuum and pressure. This is the
stage many menopausal wives feel like a new bride one more time because it
helps them to have deep sensations specially when the husband tries stimulating
the breasts of his menopausal wife orally, when she is lying above you. What
happens here is that her breasts will be more sensitive when they are hanging
down because of the increased blood supply to the nipples. Some other
categories of women find it highly arousing when their husbands caresses their
nipples with the tip of an erect penis, while some women get aroused by having
an erect penis sliding in-between their well-oiled breasts as they are being
squeezed together.
Remember, although some wives can
reach orgasm from breast play, not all women would be able to. But there is no
harm in trying. However, don’t put pressure on yourself or her to achieve this
result. Just enjoy yourself! Breast play can also magnify a clitoral or G spot
orgasm, so any of these techniques can also be used in combination with
stimulating other parts of her body for a truly intense experience.
These are ways husbands can learn
how to stimulate their wives’ breasts to the state and stage of powerful breast
orgasm. So what are you still waiting for? Get down together while I eagerly
await your feedback!
Written By: FUNMI AKINGBADE
Culled: PUNCH
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